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Today's Meetings

Good Morning, Higher Power

Oct 22, 2018 |  7:45am 8:45am
Manhattan

Relapse Prevention

Oct 22, 2018 |  6:00pm 7:15pm
Manhattan

Turn It Up

Oct 22, 2018 |  6:00pm 7:00pm
Manhattan

NA Book Study

Oct 22, 2018 |  8:00pm 9:00pm
Manhattan

Events & Meeting Updates

  • New Meetings

    Clean and Queer

    Tuesdays, 8:00 pm
    QSpot LGBT Community Center
    66 South Main Street
    Ocean Grove, New Jersey

    Midnight Desire

    Fridays, 11:11 pm
    51 W 14thStreet Suite 4R, Manhattan

    Outside the Lines

    Sundays, 12:30 pm
    The LGBT Community Center
    208 W 13 Street, Manhattan

    A meeting focused on persons of color struggling with addiction. Contact Michael C. for more information.

    Turn it Up

    Mondays, 6:00 pm
    St. Paul & St. Andrew United Methodist Church
    263 West 86th Street, Manhattan

    A new 3rd Step meeting on the Upper West Side.

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  • NYCMA Monthly Anniversary Meeting

    The NYCMA Monthly Anniversary Meeting is a special open meeting of CMA held on the first Monday of every month, from 7:30pm–8:30pm, at The Center (Room 101/Kaplan Assembly Hall), 208 West 13th Street (b/t Greenwich and 7th Aves), New York, NY 10011.

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  • NYCMA Intergroup Monthly Meeting

    Generally, the meeting is held the last Wednesday of every month at 7:30 pm at GMHC, 446 W 33rd Street. Check the directory for the room number.

    Check the events calendar to confirm the date, time and location of this month's meeting.

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GSR Announcements

  • Help us make Share A Day better!  If you attended this year’s Share A Day, would you kindly fill out our survey using the link below?  We’d love feedback to give to next year’s committee. 
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  • Speakers Needed
    Two meetings are in need of speakers.

    1) Ashbury Park NJ CMA meeting is looking for speakers for their meetings.  Tuesdays at 8pm. 

    2) Turn It Up, a new 3rd Step meeting on the Upper West Side at 86th and Broadway at St. Paul Episcopal Church is looking for speakers.  Mondays at 6pm.

    If you are available to do service please email This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. to get connected with the chair for those meetings.

     

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  • NYCMA Printable Meeting List is available for download here and on the Literature page,  and will be stocked at your literature table.

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  • The NYCMA monthly anniversary meeting The next NYCMA Anniversary Meeting will take place Monday, November 5th at 7:30 pm at The Center – all anniversary recipients are asked to order their anniversary chips ahead on the NYCMA.org website or through Gustavo G.

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  • NYCMA Intergroup Meeting

    Our next Monthly NYCMA Intergroup Meeting will take place on Wednesday October 31st at 7:30 pm 307 West 38th Street, between 8th and 9th Avenue –
    ** All Officers, GSR’s or Alternate GSRs are asked to attend and represent their meeting so they are informed with the latest information, updated literature and NYCMA Events.

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One of the first suggestions offered in CMA is to get a sponsor. Just what is a sponsor? How do we get a sponsor, use a sponsor and be a sponsor?

A sponsor is another recovering addict who offers guidance and support in a one-on-one relationship. When we started coming to CMA, people at meetings were there to respond to our questions, but that wasn’t always enough, especially when we were new. Issues came up between meetings, and many of us found we needed closer support as we began to live a life free of active addiction. Our sponsors gave us that support.

What does a sponsor do? 

  • Listens 
  • Makes suggestions to help us stay sober 
  • Helps us work the Twelve Steps of CMA 
  • Helps us build a foundation for recovery by sharing his or her experience, strength, and hope 
  • Introduces us to recovery literature 
  • Notes progress that we are unable to see for ourselves

How to get a sponsor 

All we had to do was ask. Some of us sought out CMA members whose recovery we admired. Some of us requested recommendations from friends in CMA. Others asked for help getting a sponsor when we shared at meetings. Some meetings have Sponsorship Chairs, who keep lists of people available to be sponsors. Some of us talked to those people and got names and phone numbers of potential sponsors. When we summoned the courage to ask for help, we usually received a positive response. Some of us were told, “Yes, I’d be happy to” right away. Some of us were invited to meet and discuss the idea further to see if it seemed like a good match. Sometimes members agreed to be an “interim sponsor,” helping us for the short-term or just to try it out. Sometimes we were told no—usually because our prospective sponsor’s plate was already full with other sponsees. We tried not to take it personally, even if we were disappointed.

How to choose a sponsor

During meetings, we listened to what people said. We looked for members who had the kind of sobriety we wanted or whose recovery we respected. Many of us picked sponsors whose experience was similar to our own. It helped us relate to them. Some of us picked people with experiences that differed from our own. Both ways worked. It was suggested to us that we not pick anyone to whom we had a strong sexual attraction. Such attractions can get in the way of recovery, making it more difficult for sponsors and sponsees to share honestly with each other.

Who can be a sponsor? 

There are no rules, but most sponsors in CMA have: • At least one year of continuous sobriety • A working knowledge of the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions • Personal experiences dealing with life in recovery

When to get a sponsor 

It is never too soon or too late to get a sponsor. Many of us got a sponsor right away. Some of us needed to take time to decide whom we wanted to ask. Some of us resisted getting a sponsor. In hindsight, that made our early recovery more difficult. It has been proven through our experience that working with a sponsor makes recovery easier. While we looked for a sponsor, we were sometimes approached by people offering to sponsor us. Sometimes we let them but were not obligated to do so. Many of us began with an interim sponsor until we found someone available for a more permanent arrangement. Some of us changed sponsors when it was not a good fit. Sponsorship did not have to be a life-long commitment, though these associations have often grown into meaningful, long-term relationships.

How does sponsorship work? 

CMA, like other Twelve Step programs, is based on the value of people with a common problem helping each other. Our sponsors helped us to trust and be trusted, perhaps for the first time. Many of us wrestled alone with our problems for so long that we had a tendency to isolate even after coming into recovery. With our sponsors, we started to see that we were no longer alone and never had to be again. We began to believe that we could do together what we could not do by ourselves. Our sponsors were our hotlines. We called them when something triggered us to think about using or brought up unpleasant memories that used to send us to dealers, bars, or the Internet. Our sponsors provided comfort, identified with our feelings, and gave us hope that, in spite of how we felt, we did not have to use. Our sponsors acted as sounding boards when we had to make decisions. We found it a good idea to discuss major decisions with our sponsors—not so they could make the choice for us but so they could share their own similar experiences with us. Sponsors unfamiliar with a particular dilemma often directed us to someone else in the fellowship who might understand our situation better. Often, our sponsors made suggestions based on their own experience or gave us advice. It was our choice to decide what to do. There are no “musts” in CMA, but we tried to be willing to accept the help being offered. Sponsors help not only when times are going well. Success and hope are also shared with a sponsor. Simply by sharing, we experience unconditional love, selflessness, patience, tolerance, honesty, and trust in these crucial relationships.

What a sponsor is not

It is not a sponsor’s job to be a landlord, loan company, lawyer, doctor, accountant, psychiatrist, financial broker, marriage counselor, or therapist. Sponsors who are in those professions leave that role at the door of CMA. Here they are like us: one addict trying to help another. If additional guidance was needed, sometimes our sponsors encouraged us to seek professional help.

What does a sponsee do? 

It is suggested that sponsees contact their sponsors regularly. Many of us called our sponsors every day, even if it was just to check in. We also met in person with our sponsors. Some of us had sponsors who told us how often they expected us to call and meet with them. Some of us had sponsors who didn’t set specific requirements. Both ways worked. However we communicated with our sponsor, we found it was important to be honest and keep an open mind. We were willing to try suggestions before we dismissed them. We did the work our sponsors suggested. Our sponsors guided us but made it clear that we were responsible for our own recovery. We could not expect our sponsors to work harder on our own recovery than we did ourselves. Sometimes we worried about being a burden, and our sponsors always told us that we were helping them a lot more than they were helping us. We came to understand that by using our sponsors, we helped them recover. Our sponsors often told us that they could only keep what they had by giving it away.

 

  • Expressions of Hope

    Expressions of Hope CoverExpressions of Hope is a collection of personal experiences from crystal meth addicts in recovery. This newly expanded and revised edition has been redesigned around the stages of the recovery process: personal stories of powerlessness and hopelessness before entering the rooms, working the program of recovery, application of the common tools and suggestions, and learning how to face life on life's terms in sobriety.

    The selected stories, articles and readings were chosen to represent a wide range of topics, including physical health, intimate relationships (including marriage and children), becoming sober in prison (and reintegrating after being released), and even the economic crisis. Though the selections are diverse and were written by those in early recovery as well as those with long-term sobriety, the message conveyed throughout this book is that no matter how bleak life seems right now, there is always HOPE.

    The books are available now at the low price of $8.00 per copy.

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